May 12, 2020
Pandemic Reflections #3
To Our Clients,
As we were considering what Pandemic Reflections we wanted to
share in this installment, the third studio album by one of
America's greatest singer-songwriters Bob Dylan came to mind (at
least to one of us!)
The Times They are a-Changin' was released in
January, 1964. Many feel that the album and its title song captures
the spirit of social and political upheaval regarding the issues of
racism, poverty, and social change that characterized the 1960s.
Fast forward 56 years to the year 2020 and the Coronavirus
We found ourselves wondering what "times are
a-changin'" as a result of the current Pandemic. Through our
continued electronic engagement with many of you, we have heard
fascinating stories of the impact the quarantine and its subsequent
necessary social restrictions has had on daily lifestyle routines
and requirements. We have heard stories of families embracing the
opportunity, albeit forced, to spend more time with each other. We
have heard from parents how their children have expressed a level
of relief that they are not being chauffeured from one
extra-curricular activity to another after a long day at school.
How they have loved the extra time with their parents due to
work-from-home requirements for many of you. In our neighborhood we
have watched as more people walk their dogs or are out in their
yards tending to their gardens and lawns. We have learned that
several of you have discovered or re-discovered hidden culinary
talents. It is not uncommon for us to hear how this period of
necessitated change has allowed (forced?) you to stop and take
inventory of the lifestyle choices you
have been making . . . and now you are asking yourself what are
your real priorities that you want guiding your decisions regarding
your limited time and energy and how they are expended. All too
often the frenetic pace of today's societal demands causes us to
lose the ability to choose between what is absolutely necessary and
what is actually self-imposed chaos.
No doubt not everyone has been able to embrace the challenges
that have come with the Pandemic with arms-opened appreciation.
Jobs have been lost. Parents have been forced to learn how to
become a teacher's aid and ensure assignments are being completed.
The adaptation to being in each other's presence almost 24/7 has
produced a different kind of stress for some parents, their
children, or other relational partners. The uncertainty that comes
from not knowing how this is all going to play out can be very
unsettling. We invite each of us to find a moment to literally
stop, take a deep breath, and focus on those elusive gifts of time,
priorities, and choice. How are these
times "a-changin'" us?
May we all find ways this week to express gratitude for those in
our communities who are working diligently to keep us safe and
Be safe, be patient, be loving.
Dana K. Taylor, Ph.D., LMFT
Kary S. Reid, Ph.D.,
Lubbock, Texas 79411
P.S. As a reminder, we will continue to limit our services to
phone and video only at least through the month of May at which
time we will reassess based on the recommendation of our local